Getting back to love , if you go into a shell to protect yourself , you end up hurting the one your not loving . Which is you !  The experience of loving is everything .  When we love life we engage , meeting someone and letting them feel you really are interested in them is an incredible gift . When ever someone feels you,re really listening ,it surprises them as in todays world it seems to be go,go,go . It,s a fun exercise to try. Really listening.